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  • Healing Through Forgiving

    Learn how to heal from painful relationships

    I know this might be a difficult topic for you; It was for me at some point in my life; when I started my healing journey. You are not alone, at the end of the day, the most important person you have is yourself.

    To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you.

    — Lewis B. Smedes

    If you feel like you are at that point where you realized that to start a different future you have to let go of the past, then forgiving is the most powerful tool to leave the past where it belongs, and be in peace with it. I want to remind you that when we forgive someone or something, the main reason is for Us. We forgive to be in peace and feel peace because there is nothing, we can do anymore for something that has already happened.

    What happens when it comes to someone that still hurts us?

    If we have any type of communication with people that have hurt us or are still hurting us, no matter what the situation might be; We Have the Power to Choose. Observational studies, and even some randomized trials, suggest that forgiveness is associated with lower levels of depression, anxiety, and hostility; reduced substance abuse; higher self-esteem; and greater life satisfaction.

    “Forgiving a person who has wronged you is never easy, but dwelling on those events and reliving them over and over can fill your mind with negative thoughts and suppressed anger,” says Dr. Tyler Vander Weele. “Yet, when you learn to forgive, you are no longer trapped by the past actions of others and can finally feel free.”

    How to forgive

    I have found a way that has helped me to forgive someone. If I start picturing that awful person that hurts me, I like to see them as when they were a child, and other adults did harm to them as well, and I feel compassion for that person because as an adult they are unable to look inside of themselves and connect with their heart. Children learn most of the time by observing and imitating adults, if someone grows up imitating the wrong person and we don’t become aware, we end up doing the same or even more harm to others.

    Before we can forgive one another, we have to understand one another.

    — Emma Goldman

    Practice forgiveness

    Before going to sleep every night, take a deep breath, one after the other, and call the name of those who have done wrong to you, somehow or at some point, and say from your heart: “I forgive you”.

    You can’t forgive without loving. And I don’t mean sentimentally. I don’t mean mush. I mean having enough courage to stand up and say, ‘I forgive. I’m finished with it.’

    — Maya Angelou

    Take control of your life today, don’t choose your past, your thoughts, or your emotions to become part of your present and future. You can decide for yourself to live a conscious life and create your own future. Aventurine will help you to create and come to the awareness of your true self. Call Today for Your Free Consult or schedule your first appointment. You are not alone in this journey. There is help available to help you go through the most difficult time, feelings, and emotions.